I’m going to start this article with a brief visit back to high school physics. Wait! Before you run screaming in terror, bear with me.Newton’s First Law of Motion states that an object in motion will stay in motion and an object at rest will stay at rest unless acted on by an unbalanced force. This is often known as the Law of Inertia.

This law may not be particularly interesting in and of itself (unless you’re an avid pool player). What is interesting is that human behavior tends to work in exactly the same way.

For example, have you ever found yourself thinking a lot about something you’d like to do but find it nearly impossible to get into gear? Yet other times you’ll be working in a nice groove on an interesting project, and nothing but the most basic biological urges can make you stop what you’re doing?

In both cases, inertia’s at work. Simply put, it’s easy to stay moving, but hard to get started. This applies to things as small as cleaning out your closet, or as complex as looking for a new career.

For some people, overcoming inertia is no problem. For the rest of us-how do we get past our internal resistance to start endeavors we know will make us happier in the long run?

I’d like to say the answer is as straightforward as Newton’s law…but it’s not. The things that keep us from taking action are varied and complex, and can include:

• Fatigue, illness, or other suboptimal physical state
• Uncomfortable emotions
• Other things competing for our time and attention
• Doubt in our ability to succeed
• Anticipated level of difficulty, frustration, or tedium involved
• Bad prior experience doing the same or similar task
• Lack of resources available to help get the job done

However, it is possible to overcome your inertia and get moving. The key is to discover or create that “unbalanced force” that works best for you. And often it doesn’t take much. Here are some strategies you can try:

1. Give yourself an official start date. Write it on your calendar. Tell your friends. Make it known to yourself and everyone that you are committed to do this.

2. Don’t try to embark on a new project when you are sick, tired, or stressed. Don’t give up but rather focus on bringing back your health and balance, and commit to start when your “tank is full.”

3. Similarly, trying to make yourself do something when you are sad, angry, depressed, or scared may only bring you down further. Don’t beat yourself up. Just give yourself permission to start when you’re feeling more positive.

4. Get crystal clear on the benefits of your desired outcome, so that you visualize the rewards in much greater detail than the challenges surrounding the task. Pretend you’ve already reached your goal, then write a short story about it, including how it felt to be successful.

5. Think about what you already have at your disposal to get the job done. What knowledge or information do you have? Whom do you know who can help? What have you already done towards your goal?

6. Write down the steps to your goal. Sometimes our inertia comes from being unclear on exactly what it will take to get the job done. Breaking it down into smaller pieces can lift the weight that keeps you from starting.

7. Identify which steps in the process you know you’ll enjoy. Also figure out which ones you are dreading. Then ask for help, hire out, or otherwise delegate those tasks that may keep you from getting to the more desirable parts of the job.

8. If you are resisting because of some previous experience, ask yourself what you would do differently this time around. Focus on what’s unique about this situation and what you’ve learned that will now support your success.

9. Get a project partner. Someone who is willing to check in with you and vice versa as you both work on your goals.

10. See how your commitment to this goal will benefit others around you. Sometimes we’re more than willing to do things for others that we’re not willing to do for ourselves alone.

You may find that even one of these strategies is enough to break through your inertia, creating momentum that propels you towards your goal. Or you may have to try several in order to tap into that force that finally gets you off that chair and into your life.

So…what would you like to get started on today?

Is there something you’ve really wanted for a long time? A new career? A happier relationship? A bigger house? To make a difference in the world? These are examples of things you might have imagined are possible but aren’t within your grasp at the moment. So how do you get them? GRASP them!

You can look at any dream or vision as requiring five key factors to help make them come true: a Goal, Resources, Attitude, Support, and a Plan. Without any one of these things being in place, the likelihood of realizing your dream goes down.

Let’s look at each of these elements in detail.

Goal. This seems pretty obvious, but is your goal really a goal, or just a vague daydream? In other words, how well-defined is your vision? What kind of job do you want? What does “happier” mean to you, in practical terms? How big of a house and where? What specific difference would you like to make, and for whom? Keep asking these kinds of questions until you are crystal clear on the who’s, what’s, where’s, and when’s of your vision.

Resources. This is where you take inventory for your dream. What do you have at your disposal right now to make it come true? What skills, knowledge, talents, and abilities do you already possess that will help you succeed? What time, money, equipment, and materials do you have to make this easier? On the flipside, what do you need? What’s missing? Making a list of both your available and absent resources helps you use what you have and go after what’s missing.

Attitude. Our attitudes about what we can and can’t do are even more important than the resources we have to accomplish our goals. You can think about all the things that can go wrong; all the times you failed; all the things that stand in your way; all the reasons why now isn’t a good time. OR… You can choose to assume that no matter what, you will achieve your goal. One might argue that this attitude is “unrealistic.” But in fact a positive attitude greatly increases the odds that you will reach your goal. Focusing on possibilities instead than problems opens up creativity, opportunities, and willingness from other people to help you succeed.

Support. Speaking of people, the more support and encouragement you have, the more likely you are to reach your dream. Who can help you obtain the resources that you’re missing? Who will bolster you up when you get discouraged? Who do you want there with you to celebrate your success? We thrive more with support, dare more with encouragement, and do more with love. How can you enlist the support of others to help you achieve your goal?

Plan. And of course, you must create a plan. Something with a schedule, doable action items, clear milestones, and finite ways to measure your progress. This doesn’t have to be elaborate-it can be as simple as outlining the steps to your goal and marking the dates when you want to accomplish each task. Putting something down “on paper” makes it more concrete; having a plan puts your dream into three dimensions (four if you count the time it takes to complete it!).

So think for a moment about something you’ve been wanting for a long time. Walk through the GRASP model and ask yourself which factors come up short or missing. Make the commitment to yourself to define the goal, determine your resources, shift your attitude, solicit support, create a plan–then grasp your dreams!

How do you handle life’s roadblocks? Do you say, “Oh boy! What a great challenge! I can’t wait to work my way through this particular problem…”? I’m guessing probably not. More likely your reaction is something along the lines of, “Oh *%&#!”

If so, don’t feel bad; you’re in good company.

I’ve known a few amazing people in my life who meet challenges in a naturally positive way. But I think most of us approach our troubles with a fight or flight mentality. Nevertheless, I truly believe that the ability to face and overcome obstacles is one of humankind’s greatest characteristics, and one that can be cultivated.

What it takes is the willingness to shift our relationship with our obstacles. To do this, I recommend a “Triple-A” approach:

1. Awareness
2. Attitude
3. Action

Awareness

This may sound obvious, but to change a behavior you first have to be aware of it. So much of our behavior is ingrained and unconscious, and we often defeat ourselves before we ever get started and not even realize it.

Once you’ve identified a problem in your life, it’s easy to get swept up in the strong emotions it triggers. This often just intensifies the problem and makes it harder to come up with solutions. To distance yourself from these emotions, try writing your problem out on paper in three steps. First list the facts; then list what the situation means to you; then list your feelings about it. For example:

1. One of your co-workers just got promoted. (FACT)
2. You wanted that job and believe you should have gotten it. It must be that your manager thinks you’re not good enough. (MEANING)
3. You’re angry, hurt, bewildered, resentful, envious. (FEELINGS)

In this case, it’s possible you don’t know all the reasons why the co-worker got the promotion, nor why you might have been passed over. Often we leap to conclusions without having enough information. Using these three steps helps us distinguish what’s really happening from what we might be making up. Ask yourself if your meaning is the truth, or if there’s something you’re missing, distorting, or just wishing were true.

If you are still overwhelmed, try writing down the problem:

• as if it happened five years ago. You may find that by framing your problem as a story, the ending (solution) naturally follows. “I didn’t get this promotion I wanted, so what I ended up doing was…”
• as though it were happening to someone else. “I know this person who was passed over for a promotion …” Also describe how they’re reacting to the situation. “They were really bent out of shape…”
• from the perspective of a wise guru, offering compassion and advice to someone else in this situation. “I know this feels awful now, but this is what you might do to turn this around…”

Attitude

Once you’ve put some emotional distance between you and your problem, you can gain more control over your attitude towards the situation, and begin to explore alternate interpretations or meanings. Here are some helpful questions to ask yourself:

What does this problem mean to me?

What’s the payoff for staying overwhelmed about this problem?

What frame of mind would help me get through this more easily?

What lessons might I learn from this situation?

What’s good about this?

As you come up with answers, you may find yourself looking at your problem in a completely different way, and naturally gravitating towards finding a solution.

Action

When you’ve shifted from problem mode to solution mode, you can now decide how to take action. Ask yourself:

What strengths do I bring to this situation?

What information do I need to resolve this problem?

When have I faced something like this before? What did I do in the past?

Where in this do I have control or influence?

What do I need to let go of?

Who can help me?

What’s my first step?

And know that you don’t have to (nor is it advisable to) do this all by yourself. In general the most resilient people are those who have a strong network of people to rely on when things get difficult. And when you enlist others to help you with problems, you are in effect saying, “You matter enough to me that I’m willing to be vulnerable with you.” This is a precious gift that strengthens relationships. So find people you trust-friends, family, colleagues, community members, or professionals-and ask them if they’d be willing to walk through these steps with you and be a compassionate sounding board as you face your problem.

So obstacles aren’t really obstacles; they’re what we make them to be. They can be brick walls that stop us in our tracks, or they can be isometric exercises that make us stronger, increase our stamina, and help us grow into our very best selves.

Think of a problem you’re currently facing. Apply the “Triple-A” approach, and see how your relationship with that problem changes. Embrace the illusion!